INNER BOUNDARIES

You can have boundaries with yourself; this can be a very effective self-initiated practice with tremendous, positive effects.

For example, you can look at your inner dialogue and make some promises to become aware when the internal dialogue infringes on one of your boundaried topics. These topics could be anything that causes you pain or discomfort. We have some questions on the next page to help you identify any self-boundaries that you might wish to implement.

When working on inner boundaries, compassion is an essential element. We cannot change our thoughts overnight.

Remembering these steps will help:

1. Notice the boundary being encroached

2. Accept that your mind has chosen to go there

3. Gently try to steer it away

4. Understand this isn’t easy

5. Show yourself compassion if you do not manage

  • When you talk to someone, are you listening or formulating what you will say next?

    Do you compare yourself to others and either find yourself lacking or superior?

    Do you have irrational sparks of jealousy?

    If you make a mistake, what happens in your mind?

    How do you feel about your work?

    Do you find time to be alone?

    Do you find yourself saying yes before giving the question some real thought?

    Do you feel overwhelmed a lot of the time?

    What types of thoughts run through your head when trying something new?

    Do you find yourself obsessing over past events or certain people?

    Do you find that you are always thinking ahead?

From answering these questions, can you see any areas in which inner boundaries might be helpful?